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Understanding Brokenheartedness

We have a God who loves us, cares for us, and meets us face-to-face in our darkest hour and deepest need. If you get one thing from this post, this is what is most important for you to completely understand—not just with your head, but also with your heart, as broken as it might be right now.

Brokenheartedness is way beyond just having a bad day or going through a tough season. Rest assured that God is there for those times as well, but we’re talking about a life-changing, soul-wrenching tragedy in which every other trial, every other heartbreak you’ve faced suddenly pales in comparison. Brokenheartedness can be caused by any number of things, and each person’s story is unique.
Brokenheartedness is when your heart is obliterated, scattered, and devastated. When your heart is broken, you wonder if it can ever be put back together again or if you’ll ever pull out of this thing. It’s when your faith and trust are stretched and attacked like no other time. Steven Curtis Chapman, after his precious little girl Maria went to Heaven, said it so clearly to us: “There will be times when you’ll question everything you believe.”  No matter how much faith you had before your heart was broken, the Enemy will use your brokenheartedness as an opportunity to attack you ferociously.
Although the cause of brokenheartedness varies, the symptoms are similar, and the solution is always the same. We must cling to the fact that Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted. He didn’t just come to cheer us up on a sad day. He came so that He could show us power and healing when our hearts are in little pieces and scattered all over the place. He came so we could literally “have heart”! He came for THAT.
Solomon, the king who sought wisdom, recognized the utter devastation of a broken heart. He wrote in Proverbs 18:14, “The spirit of a man will sustain him in sickness, but who can bear a broken spirit?” Your spirit can pull you out of a bad day, but what about when your spirit is scattered? What happens when your heart is obliterated? Solomon asked, “Can anyone bear that?”
My wife Sarah and I are here to tell you, “YES, YOU CAN BEAR IT!” You can bear it because of the grace, power, peace, love, compassion, presence, and promises of Jesus Christ. That’s the only way you can bear brokenheartedness. Yes, it seems unbearable at times. Yes, it’s hard, but Jesus came so all of us can have heart and be made whole again (Luke 4:18). Jesus Himself revives the hearts of hurting people, and He is the solution to our suffering. Draw near to Him, because He has drawn near to you.

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8 responses to “Understanding Brokenheartedness”

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  2. Rob Harvey says:

    Yes. Good post. Thx for sharing this. The Lord is our strength and shield. He is our very present help in time of need.

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  4. Derek Brown says:

    Awesome Pastor Steve, just awesome…thanks for sharing!

  5. Stephanie day says:

    I loved when you spoke of taking Jesus by the hand ,and walking him over to the place of your pain…Thank you,Pastor Steve.

    • Steve Berger says:

      Thanks so much for your comment. It’s a visual reminder that Jesus heals and is with us every step of the way. Bless you, Steve

  6. holli givens says:

    Yes He is all we’ll ever need, but He also loves us so much that He places people in our lives to where we don’t bear this hurt alone – i love that about the Lord – we’re all in this together!