The Stronghold of Unforgiveness
Over the next few Blog posts I’ll be tackling several personal strongholds that need to be broken if we’re going to win the mind wars and renew our thinking.
Let me say, right up front, without question, other people have hurt every one of us. Unfortunately, it’s part of living in this broken world. However, we still need to pull down the stronghold of unforgiveness. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that what they did was right. That’s not the point.
The point is that holding on to unforgiveness because of what someone did only hurts us. We must not fall into the trap of the need to have revenge. Letting go of that and forgiving frees us to move forward into the life Jesus came to give us.
Every one of us is either going live free through forgiveness or be bound by a stronghold of unforgiveness. We need to, for our own peace and well being, make the choice to forgive.
How do we move from unforgiveness to forgiveness?
Jesus gives every Christian the motivation and the tools that enable us to forgive other people. From Jesus we learn that forgiveness is nothing more than us giving away that which we first received. As Christians, forgiveness is simply giving to other people what Jesus first gave us.
As we think about forgiveness we must remember two things:
- The depth of forgiveness that Jesus has shown us and from what it saved us.
- We cannot fail to see the costly price we pay for not forgiving others.
When we don’t embrace these truths, we’re going to be bound and held captive by the stronghold of unforgiveness.
Jesus tells a parable in Matthew 18:21–35. He teaches that the wicked servant failed to see how much he was forgiven and what he was saved from. His master let him out of a tremendous debt, but he didn’t see it. He took it for granted. Then, he didn’t see the incredible cost to him when he didn’t forgive the person who owed him. He paid a tremendous price for not forgiving that person (prison and torture).
We’ve all been hurt and I don’t want you to think for a minute that I’m devaluing or not being sensitive to the level of hurt and pain in your life today. I’m on your side. In the midst of understanding your pain, I don’t want you to get caught in the stronghold of unforgiveness because of what it will do to you. We cannot justify unforgiveness; we need to seek the freedom Jesus gives when we forgive.
Here’s how you can do that. You can have the opportunity to have healing from the Truth of God so you can overcome this stronghold and beat it if it rears its head in the future. Below is a simple yet powerful prayer, taken from God’s Word.
If you have unforgiveness in your heart, this is a prayer you can start praying today and continue to praying over much as you need to, claiming these passages and scriptures as your own—until you get healed.
Father, it is beyond human comprehension how you could love me so much that You would send Jesus to pay the unspeakable price for my sins, so I could be forgiven and have eternal life. John 3:16
I might never know the full extent of the depths of forgiveness you have afforded me. But, what I do know about the depravity of my own sin, past, present and future is that it is massive and offensive to You. Matthew 18:24
Father, thank you for having compassion on me, releasing me and forgiving me from the debt I could never pay on my own. Matthew 18:25
Lord, thank you for being a God who forgives my iniquity, my transgressions and my sins. Exodus 34:7
Thank you that though my sins were red as scarlet You made them as white as snow and though my sins were red as crimson You made them as white as wool. Isaiah 1:18
Thank you for removing my sins from me as far as the East is from the West. Psalm 103:12
Thank you for remembering my sins and lawless deeds no more. Hebrews 8:12
Thank you for cleansing and forgiving me from all my sin and unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
Today, right now, as an act of faith and obedience I choose to forgive those who have hurt me, and sinned against me, just as You forgave me. Matthew 6:12
I offer them the same compassion, release and forgiveness You gave me. Matthew 18:25
I choose to walk in forgiveness and offer it continually. Matthew 18:21-22
I choose to love my enemies, bless those who curse me, do good to those who hate me, and pray for those who spitefully use me and persecute me. Matthew 5:44
I realize forgiveness is something I must do. Colossians 3:13
I repent of an unforgiving spirit while needing forgiveness myself. 2 Samuel 12:1-9
I refuse to let Satan take advantage of me in this area any longer. 2 Corinthians 2:11
Father, because it is clearly Your will, I renounce the stronghold of unforgiveness in my life, in Jesus Name, by His love, mercy and power,