I realize this is a controversial subject. I ask that you just hold on for a few minutes and read this post with an open mind. It’s a tough issue, but, I feel strongly that if we give ourselves to it in a holy and biblical way, we’ll know a peace, a harmony and a unity that many of us are unfamiliar with. How? Through submitting to one another according to the Scriptures—all of the Scriptures, not just one or two.
Let’s start with a definition. Submission means, “Voluntarily giving in to one another.”
Voluntarily—it means it’s from your heart. We don’t do it as a matter of duty or because it’s the right thing to do. NO, true Biblical submission comes from our hearts. You are willing to “put yourself under” someone else because of your heart’s attitude, not some false sense of responsibility.
Giving—this implies serving. We’re not slaves when we submit. Far from it! We are serving someone. We are giving something of ourselves to that person. It’s open, respectful and loving.
One another—Submission affects all of our relationships. It reaches every person we come in contact with.
How can we do this and see the blessing of submission? First, we need to learn to be submitted to God, and then we need to submit to one another by being an “other-centered” person. We need to stop being our self-willed, self-demanding and self-centered self and focus our attention on others.
Paul writes in Philippians 2:3 “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.”
In Romans 12:10, he says, “Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another.”
We are called to live contrary to what our culture tells us. We are called to set aside selfishness, conceit and arrogance and instead, pick up a life that esteems other people more highly than yourself. We are to give preference to others and yield to their desire and wishes, not our own selfish ones.
Submission is voluntarily giving in to one another with humble, family-like affection. Submission is the right action with the right attitude and it should be our desire and should mark our life as a follower of Christ.
My next post will look a bit more deeply into who we submit to.
Do you have trouble submitting? At home? At work? At church? Why do you think it’s such a difficult thing for us to do?